The desire to be "wanted" or "fought for" is definitely something I know to be true in my heart. Before I was a Christian, that desire had me caught up in so many stupid relationships and boys. I wanted someone to truly want me, not in a sexual way (though there was some confusion about how that tied in...) but I didn't know how to explain or express the true longings of my heart. And I was horribly too naive to understand what was really going on. Also, thanks to our awesome society of Girl Power and feminazi-ism, we are ashamed of that desire. We try to pretend like it's not that big of a deal. But the truth is...
It is a big deal. And pretending like it's not only causes us more pain and anguish than does actually accepting that we have the desire. It's not something we should base our lives around, but it IS something that should not be ignored.
I love how the authors say that there is something fierce in the heart of woman. I was always frustrated when I'd go to the Christian Bookstores trying to find a devotional and all of the books for men were hardcore and tough sounding, while the ones for women were sweet and gentle. While I may be described by those attributes, that's not all that I am. And that's certainly not how I want my relationship with God to be! Women like Esther, Ruth, Mary... they had irreplaceable roles they played in God's Story. They were not "sweet" and "nice" and "safe," they were passionate and powerful. No one else could have done what they did. As women, we don't want adventure just for adventure's sake (much to my wonderful husband's dismay...). We want to play a part in an adventure that no one else can.
Something that blows my mind is how much my husband understands that. When I'm having my "I'm-such-a-failure" moments of doubt, he does whatever he can to reassure me that he picked ME, and there's no one else that he wants to or could do the things that I do in our life. He doesn't want to be living adventures by himself, he wants to be living them with me. I'm so lucky to have that.
Last, but not least, the beauty. As women we all want to feel beautiful. With the models in magazines and the characters on t.v. it's hard to feel like we measure up. It's an on-going inner battle. BUT the author made a good point, no matter how much pain or stress (or both) beauty seems to cause us, the desire still remains. It's ingrained in us. We were made to want to be beautiful.
Then they bring up the desires of the heart of MAN. Every man wants a battle to fight, adventure, and a beauty to fight for/rescue. Taking that in mind, you can see how the desires of men's hearts and the desires of women's hearts were meant to fit together... I wonder what got in the way of that... [sin]
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